Hebrews 12 is a great example of how God instructs us to use discipline in our daily lives, whether for the purpose of our children or something we are battling within ourselves.
“My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline,
and do not lose heart when he rebukes you,
because the Lord disciplines the one he loves,
and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son."
7 Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? 8 If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. 9 Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! 10 They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. 11 No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.
The fact is everyone needs discipline. Even adults. I love where it says "do not lose heart when he rebukes you." The Message translation phrases it like this: but don't be crushed by it either. Don't be crushed by discipline. As parents discipling children, we have to take that responsibility ourselves. Don't crush children by discipline. Choose your battles is how the saying goes I think. I once heard a Pastor talking about discipline and he said something that I think about often. He said, "I do discipline my children. I believe in spanking. I believe in discipline. But I also believe that through my discipline I will have helped change and mold my child's heart rather than crush it. You see I want my child to want to make the right decisions, to want to be a responsible person. To be pure in heart and motives. That's what I pray my discipline accomplishes."
As adults going through discipline we have to head this warning on our own. Don't let discipline break you. Let it mold you through Christ. Everyone goes through different seasons in life. Some are great seasons of harvest, some are seasons of drought, some maybe of discipline. Don't let it crush you.
Thanks for reading! May God bless each and everyone of you!